Conflict

Couple of days ago my husband and I watched the old Harrison Ford movie .."Air Force One" . One of the dialogues in the movie that caught my attention was..

"Peace isn't merely the absence of conflict, but the presence of justice"

The reason this sentence caught my attention was because I sometimes feel that I tend to agree to people and situations just to keep peace or to avoid conflict.

Wikipedia quotes..
"Conflict is a state of discord caused by the actual or perceived opposition of needs, values and interests between people"

I think keyword here is 'perceived' , most of the times it is the perceived opposition of needs in the materialistic world that gives rise to conflict between people , and problem is that when there is conflict we tend to counter it with conflict.

I have read somewhere that what we need to do is not to avoid conflict but to create harmony in conflict . In martial art if someone twists your wrist and if you resist it, you may break your wrist.

But if you go with the flow rather than go against the flow, you are in a state of harmony. As you go with the flow then you counter-attack your opponent in the flow. This is creating harmony in conflict.

I dont know where I read it and dont have the URL, but I have read the following quote somewhere and have saved it in the past . While writing about conflict somehow remembered it..because I think this is the right way to create harmony ...create peace ...inside and outside...

In the art of archery, "losing the arrow" is the most important aspect... Archery is only a preparation for the final "let go" of the arrow. Similarly, in life it is the "let go" of the ego which is most important.